Every newlywed wife needs advice on starting her marriage off on the right foot.
Ever wish you could go back in time to tell your younger self some words of wisdom that you have only learned through experience? I know I have.
Sure would have made some situations a Little. Bit. Easier. But since we can’t do that, I’ll share with you some nuggets of gold for your marriage.
After ten years of marriage, I’ve learned a couple of things. I’d still love to pick the brain of an older, married lady because I’m sure there is still lots to learn.
I wish I had known about the power of prayer, the importance of self-care, and how to use our money correctly before we got married.
Five marriage tips for Newlyweds.
1.Prayer is your mightiest weapon.
Not nagging, no silent treatments, no angry words.
They might work for the present situation in pressuring your husband to conform to your expectations, but they will never change him. Only God can do that, so why put it on yourself?
We are incapable of changing anyone, but God is capable of the impossible. Pray for your husband. It will make all the difference.
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2.Find a Christian mentor.
Someone who is older and more experienced, and who is willing to let you pick their brains and guide you. She can be very helpful in giving you a different perspective in difficult situations.
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3.Remember who you are.
Having children affected me in a way that I didn’t realize. Your life starts to revolve so much around your children, that you forget who you are.
Especially if you have more than two. After my third baby, life got so busy that I pushed myself to the back burner. You have to take care of yourself in order to be able to take care of your family.
Maybe this is more of a problem of stay at home moms, I don’t know. Only after being a bit ‘selfish’, I realized how much I had missed the old me.
Take time for the things you enjoy. In no way neglect your family, but take time for Jesus first, family second, yourself last. I say last in that you still take care of yourself. You don’t NOT take care of yourself.
I don’t agree with all those self-love teachings, because that’s not what we are called to do. We are called to love Jesus and others.
However, neglecting your own health is in no way beneficial to the people around you. Taking care of yourself can also be a benefit to your marriage.
Remember, your husband married you for who you are now, and while things WILL change after having children, they can be good changes. Nothing should make a woman more self-less than having children.
4.Children grow up fast.
I realize in those nights that they keep you awake, it feels like they never will. But all of a sudden you realize your oldest is almost ten already.
Where did the time go? Cherish the moments. This is a good reminder for myself. I know it to be true, but hard to remember in difficult moments.
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5.Consider your purchases wisely.
It might seem like not such a big deal to buy that fix up the boat but a couple of years down the road when it is still not running, you’re going to wish you had that $4000 cash instead.
Pray about major purchases, and do as the Spirit leads.
Track your spending from the day you get married, and make wise decisions together. Money can be a major issue in a marriage, so keep your spending in check.
If your husband is the spender in your relationship, pray to God that He will direct your husband’s path. I felt that we should start tithing, and giving more. However, my husband was not of the same mindset. I suggested it once and then left it on God’s hands.
It didn’t take a long time before my husband suggested giving. It’s amazing the things God does when we ask him for it and don’t try to control everything ourselves.
If your husband and you can start your marriage off on good financial ground, you will have a lot less stress. For a great program, follow Dave Ramsey’s Baby Steps. He explains them all in the Total Money Makeover.
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There could be a lot more said, but unfortunately, experience is the best teacher. Remember to forgive and pray for each other. Only when God is the center of your marriage will it be able to thrive.
Every newlywed wife needs advice on starting her marriage off on the right foot. What would you have liked to know before getting married?