Every wonder why some people are so negative? You don’t need to be in their presence for long, before you feel completely drained yourself.
Negative people even affect your health. Others seem to be constantly joyful and happy-go-lucky. Maybe some are just blessed with an awesome life, and others have been dealt a bad life….
Or maybe they have spoken their way of life into existence! The bible says in Proverbs 18:21 that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” Think about that. How can death and life be in the power of the tongue? Isn’t God in control of everything?
Absolutely. He also gave us free will, the power to choose between good and evil. How we speak, is very often exactly how things are or will become. If I tell myself, “I’m such an impatient mother, that’s exactly what I’ll stay!
The Bible tells us to think on those things that are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, and of good report (Philippians 4:8). Doesn’t sound like negative thinking to me.
In Deuteronomy chapter 30 (vs. 19), God tells the people that he has set before them life or death, blessing or cursing. He tells them to choose life! Such a good reminder for me. Do we dwell on negativity, or do we speak and live LIFE?
Masaru Emoto was a Japanese author that discovered that how you speak affects the water. He did an experiment by labeling bottles of water by different words, such as I love you, or I hate you, etc. After freezing the water, the crystallization of the water was vastly different from each other.
The negative bottles were dark and ugly, whereas the loved on water was beautiful. Water was used because sound vibration travels through water four times faster than through open air.
This is considered pseudo-science by some, and they (scientist) really should do a more in-depth scientific study on this, but considering our bodies are made up of 70% water, we might want to take this into consideration.
THEN I discovered the rice consciousness experiment. This is something you can do at home. You cook 2 cups of rice, divide it equally into 2 glass jars, and start speaking love to one, and hate to the other.
Time and time again people have found that the hated rice grows mold, while the loved on rice stays white. We haven’t done this experiment yet, but now that we are stuck at home, might be a good experiment to do with the kids.
The first time I heard about this I considered it hocus pocus. Then I remembered what the bible says about the tongue. “…the tongue of the wise is health.” Proverbs 12:18
God created us in an amazing way. He warns us time and time again in his Word, to control our tongue. Every animal on earth man is able to tame, and yet the tongue can no man tame.
Only with God’s help, are we able to control and tame it. Our speech ought to be always with grace, seasoned with salt. “And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue amongst our members, that it defileth the whole body…” James 3:6
How often do we say “I’ll never be able to lose weight” or “I’m ugly?” What we speak, we make truth! If we put our focus on how unhappy or how fat we are, that’s who we become. We can, with God’s help, overcome the things that hinder us.
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How are we speaking to our children? If we expect them to be disobedient, or say “I can never get him to listen”, or “She’s such a hard child”, or “he’s a bad boy.” we make it true.
Why not speak positive things over our family, our husbands, and ourselves? We need to guide and direct our children, but let’s do it in a positive way. I’m speaking to myself too. It’s very easy to fall into the negative boat here!
Colossians 4:6 says “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.”
Our speech should be gracious, pleasant and kind. It operates out of a heart full of love, love that only our Lord Jesus can give us. This is not to say that we should never use fervent and stern speech, when necessary.
We still need to rebuke the evil that is among us. Stand up for the faith, but do it in a way that encourages and edifies the church. Let’s give confidence to our children, to ourselves, and to fellow believers, that with God’s help, we can be over-comers.