Is your husband not interested in you sexually anymore?
It was brought to my attention that there are a lot of women that are struggling because of mismatched sex drives in their marriages.
20 percent of wives around the world are feeling lonely, rejected, and frustrated. Many are in despair.
She feels that her husband is not attracted to her anymore, and doesn’t know what to do. Not only does her husband not initiate sex anymore, he also hasn’t touched her in a month!
Does this sound like you?
Do you long for a healthy sex life in your marriage?
You should! This is normal and right, because a healthy sex life, is part of a healthy marriage.
Yet, many wives are struggling because their husbands have zero desire for that.
Her husband has a low sex drive and rarely initiates intimacy.
This is especially hard for wives that have a healthy sex drive, but it also is not good for any marriage.
Physical intimacy was part of God’s plan from the beginning, and anything out of his plan does not bring forth blessings.
Sex is not just about creating babies. Its much more than that. Sex is (suppose to be), a beautiful expression of oneness between a man and wife.
When your husband rejects you sexually, you feel rejected, and unloved.
There is no one size fits all solution to this problem. According to studies, men’s libidos are going down over the years.
I am not surprised. Pornography use is the number one reason men’s sex drives are decreasing, but it is not the only reason.
8 Reasons why your Husband Might Struggle With A Low Sex Drive.
- Hormonal Imbalances
- Under extreme stress.
- Lack of Emotional Intimacy.
- Porn use, past or present.
- Overwhelmed and overworked.
- You tear down your husband instead of building him up.
- You have let yourself go.
- Little hurts piled up.
Hormonal Imbalance
Hormone Imbalance is not just for women. It happens to men too, although it is not as common.
Encourage your husband to see a doctor if his lack of interest is causing problems in your marriage. A lack of sex drive may be caused by low testosterone or other hormones.
Extreme Stress
We live in a high-stress era. Too much stress for too long wreaks havoc on your body, and can definitely affect his sex drive as well.
Like Gottman Institute says, you simply cannot have 120 worries in your head and still have a great sex life.
Lack of Emotional Intimacy
The heart connection is much more important than we often take into consideration.
If there is no vulnerability and closeness between your husband and yourself, a great sex life is not going to happen. To become one in flesh means much more than physical unity.
Do you listen to your husband’s heart? Are you a safe place for him? Can he trust you with all things?
Pornography Use
Porn wreaks havoc on marriages. Not only does it wreck your libido, but it also makes regular intercourse seem boring.
Pornography chemically affects your brain and can have long-lasting consequences.
Pornography use is the leading cause of why men’s sex drive is decreasing. IF this is the cause, you need to check out the top 10 effects porn has on the brain and your marriage.
Just Tired
Is your husband overworked? Especially when he has a full plate at work when he comes home to a lot of chores and responsibilities waiting for him, he might be much too tired and feeling overwelmed.
Being Torn Down Instead of Built-up.
Some men, if they are belittled and torn down constantly, will have no desire to have sex with his wife.
This does not mean only in the home, but also among friends and acquaintances. Don’t tear your husband down, dear wife.
Wife Doesn’t Take Care about Her Appearance
Have you let yourself go? If you are no longer even remotely the same as the wife that he married, ask yourself what you can do to improve yourself.
If you no longer care about being the sweet wife, then check your attitude. Make an effort to look and feel great about yourself. This will carry over to your husband.
Bitterness and Unforgiveness
An attitude of bitterness and unforgiveness can also kill a sex drive. If there are unforgiven things in his heart, it might create a barrier to his sex drive.
Things that don’t get talked about and forgiven created emotional barriers.
If you as his wife are reading this, and you are struggling with feeling rejected sexually by your husband, consider these things.
There is a deeper issue going on with this, and it’s not just ok.
Maybe his diet needs to be better, or he needs to see a doctor or counselor.
This issue is hurting too many wives. Just as much as a wife needs to fulfill her husband’s sexual needs, a husband also needs to see to his wife’s physical need for intimacy.
Low sex drive men and high drive wives need to come together to seek a solution that will benefit both partners and give you a happier marriage in the long run.
So what can a wife do when her husband rejects her sexually? Read this to find out!
i’m one of these guys who won’t bother with sex with wife. Married 50 years and hadn’t had sex or touched wife in about guessing 40 years. My first problem I wasn’t very sexual and that was due my home life, no one in my family showed love, plus I was a unwanted child.
I was expected to get to work, shut up, or get out. I started work at about 10 years old by delivering newspapers. I worked 2 paper routes in morning, 2 after school 6 days a week and on sunday only one route. I did horribly in school but I did graduate. After high school I had a girl friend and went into the military. Military was the best for me should have stayed in but didn’t! Got married but I wasn’t sure why!
Now my wife was no angel either, sex was a problem she created rules for sex I’m not doing this or that. And don’t touch me there or over there, I needed a score card what to do or not do. So right then I stopped all sex and association with her. I moved to basement and lived my own life and worked every day 12 hours a day or more. I don’t regret any thing except of leaving the military. Should have stayed and let the military run my life.