Honoring your husband is so important for a peaceful marriage.
Honor is important for both spouses, but honoring your husband speaks especially to his heart.
It’s universal. Women need to be loved, and men need to be respected. Unfortunately, wives often don’t even realize how much they are dishonoring their husbands.
I know I didn’t. For the longest time, I thought that as long as I was just that quiet wife that never spoke up, I was being respectful. Boy was I wrong.
Honoring your husband is much more than the words you say. Disrespect very often does come out of our mouth, but often it is a state of the heart.
Honoring someone means that you hold your husband in high regard. You treat him as someone that is valuable, beyond measure.
Do you hold your husband in high esteem?
Reading marriage facebook groups makes me sad. So many wives are struggling with loving and respecting their husbands.
A lot of them don’t even like their husband anymore. Yet what they don’t realize is that love and respect is a decision you can make and is a heart issue.
Honoring your husband means changing your mind about him. We need to see our husband in the light that God does.
God sees your husband as a child that is loved by Him. He knows the faults and failures of your husband and knows when he causes you pain.
Recently, while I was in prayer over some hurt I was experiencing, God revealed something to me.
As I sat there praying for understanding, my prayer led to asking for God’s grace for my faults and shortcomings.
Then God showed me, in that same way I wanted grace from Him, I needed to extend grace to my husband.
Comparing my faults to my husbands in the sight of God is very humbling, and definitely helps to overlook when my husband does things that I don’t agree with or find hurtful.
In that way we should always respond to situations where we find it difficult to honor our husband.
But honoring our husband is also something you can teach yourself, and often it is a mindset shift.
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Here are 6 Ways You Can Start Honoring Your Husband Today.
Make a list of his good qualities
We had been married for 3 years the first time I did this exercise, and I found it incredibly difficult to find any good qualities about my husband.
This not only shocked me, I realized how negative I had become. Make a list of the good things about your spouse. Write down at least ten things.
Make an effort with the small stuff
Like someone once said, ‘it’s all small stuff.’ Take the time to listen and spend time with your husband. Be his friend. Learn his love language, and seek to love him in his own language.
Become a student of your spouse
Make an effort to learn who your husband is. Study your husband and find out his likes and dislikes. Find out what his favourite meal is and then make it.
Work on improving yourself
Don’t let yourself go after you get married. Take care of your health, and your appearance.
You want your husband to be proud of you when you are out in public. Also, don’t give up all your interests.
Make an effort to grow as an individual, closer to God, and using the talents He has given you.
Treat him as someone very special
I always find it ironic that we save the best of ourselves for friends and strangers instead of our spouse and family. Treat your husband as someone very special, because he really is.
Dr. Gary Smalley wrote, “If you place a high enough value upon someone, that person will usually move to justify that value.”
It’s true. What you expect someone to become is almost always what they became.
Seek forgiveness if you have wronged him
Be humble. No one is perfect and it is for sure that you make your share of mistakes. When you fail and let him down, then apologize.
A marriage where forgiveness is sought and given will exemplify the love of God.
A great resource for couples is Love and Respect. You can buy it here.
Honoring your husband may not come easy every day, and it is definitely a habit that needs to be cultivated. It goes against our carnal nature but is necessary for a peaceful and joy-filled marriage.
How do you honor your husband?
Let me know in the comments below.