25 Great Conversation Starters For Married Couples

Don’t know how to start a conversation with your husband?

These 25 conversation starters especially for married couples will help you have different topics to talk about with your husband and lead you into more meaningful conversations.

It happens to all of us. In certain seasons of life, you might find yourself not knowing what topics to talk about with your husband.

“We have nothing to talk about!”

The everyday just seems mundane, and we don’t seem to have any exciting things to talk about. 

Maybe you feel that your husband doesn’t care about what you have to say. This causes you to shut off your heart from him.

Yet effective communication with our husband is one of the most important ways to build a strong relationship.

True, meaningful conversations build unity and increase vulnerability between husband and wife. 

A lack of vulnerability between husband and wife is a major source of an inability to talk to one another.

Effective and engaging communication starts with unity and vulnerability between a couple.

Unity and vulnerability start with effective communication! 

Feeling free to trust your heart to your spouse can be difficult if he has hurt you deeply, but in order for a marriage to thrive, you must resist closing your heart. 

Easier said than done. But well worth the effort. 

But how do you start deep and meaningful conversations with your spouse? 

First comes love.

Pray that God will fill your heart with a deep love for your spouse.

When your spouse feels loved by you, he will be more inclined to open his heart to you.

If he does, treasure it. Don’t share it with others, but store it in your heart.

Be a wife whose husband safely trusts in her. (Proverbs 31:11)

Make the time to connect. 

While date nights are important, they are not always feasible.

Go for a walk together, or get up early to have a cup of coffee together, and talk. It depends on the type of people you and your husband are.

My husband and I often have our most meaningful conversations at night, before we go to sleep.

Mornings don’t work because we are both much too sleepy, and our children usually join us pretty quick.

Evenings, after the children are in bed, often mean we go to sleep very late.

Find a time that works for both of you. For your marriage to become stronger, you need to find time to connect. 

Open your heart. 

Being vulnerable is one of the hardest things to do because you are trusting the other with your heart.

Share your fears and dreams with your spouse.

Ask about his, and you might find you have more in common than you originally thought. 

Often when we have nothing to talk about with our husband, we have started to close our heart to him.

Maybe you feel that he doesn’t care about you, or that his mind is too consumed with his work or other hobbies.

Learning how to communicate well with your spouse will build a better marriage. 

If you just don’t know how to start the conversation, start off lightly.

Don’t get into heavy topics immediately if you have gotten out of the practice of sharing your hearts. Learn to listen to your spouse with the intent of understanding.

We might think we know our spouse well and know what he will say, but listening with assumption can quickly cause your husband to shut down.

After all, we already know everything, right? 

Listen with the intent of understanding. 

Start listening closely to your husband.

Not with the intent of correcting him, but with the intent of understanding his heart. There is often more being said than is truly being said. If that makes sense.

Study your husband, and learn more about him. 

On to the conversation starters. Write a couple on a small notepad, and take a walk with your husband.

Hopefully one of them will help you start a meaningful conversation that will help you reconnect with your husband.

25 Conversation Starters For Married Couples

1.Who was your best friend during childhood?

2.What is your favorite holiday?

3.What side of bed do you prefer?

4.What is your favorite thing to do on the weekend?

5.What is one of your favorite childhood memories?

6.What is your earliest memory?

7.What kind of present would you like the best?

8.What is one of your greatest fears or disaster scenarios?

9.What is one of your favorite ways to spend time with me?

10.What is one of your favorite ways to workout?

11.Do you have a most embarrassing moment from childhood?

12. What are two of your biggest dreams?

13.What foods do you strongly dislike?

14. What kind of books do you like to read?

15. Do you have a secret ambition? What is it?

16. What is your favorite sport to play? To watch?

17.What is your favorite meal?

18. How did you know you wanted to marry me?

19.How did you tell your family about me?

20. What’s something you’re glad you never have to do again?

21.What is something I do that annoys you?

22.What is something I do that makes you smile?

23.What’s your favorite way for me to wear my hair?

24.What new hobby would you like to try?

25.What can I do for you to make your life easier?

Everyone goes through valleys in their marriage. It is what we do in those times that truly matter.

Do we give up on our husband, or do we fight for our relationship? It is normal to go through times when you struggle to communicate with your couples.

These conversation starters for married couples will help you get past that and grow a stronger relationship.