A woman’s role in marriage is different than a man’s and it serves us well to realize and recognize it.
With the divorce rate skyrocketing in the last forty years, it is so important that women everywhere understand what their role is in a marriage and how God wants them to fulfill it.
A man and a woman meet, fall madly in love, and get married, with visions of a happy life ahead. After all, don’t the stories we read all end happily ever after?
It usually doesn’t take them long, however, to find out that a good marriage only comes out of lots of hard work.
It means giving up self and looking towards serving the other.
That’s not always easy to do. God knew we would be in dire need of direction, so he provided us with the Holy Bible.
For that I am very grateful. So let’s find out what the God intended a woman’s role to be in a partnership meant to last a lifetime.
In Genesis chapter 2, verse 18, we read that God said, “I will make him an help meet for him.” God saw that it was not good that man should be alone.
So he created a helper, a person to be an aid to man.
So are you an assistant to your husband, or do you long to be the one who is assisted?
I think this is something every woman struggles with, some more than others.
After the fall in the Garden of Eden, God tells Eve, “and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” Genesis 3:16. So the struggle began.
This day and age, with feminism being so prominent, the thought of a woman being under the rule of man repulses women.
Yet, that was God’s doing! Who are we to fight against that?
However, being in submission to a man is not being under a tyrant. I like to think about it as putting my mission under the mission of my husband.
Men were created to lead the family and our country.
Proverbs 31 is a wonderful guideline of a worthy woman. There is so much to strive for.
A very clear guideline of a woman’s role in marriage lies in Titus chapter 2, verses 3-5.
“The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
For the purpose of this post, let’s look at what the older women should teach the younger.
They obviously already knew these things, otherwise, they wouldn’t be teaching them to the younger ones.
This bible verse about a wife’s duties in the home helps to have a biblical view of a woman’s role in marriage.
What a Godly Wife Should Do, According to The Bible
To be sober means to be thoughtful, wise, self-controlled. Not impulsive, but rather we carefully think about our actions and seek more wisdom.
2.Love Your Husband
Love isn’t just hearts and roses, but to truly love means loving in EVERYTHING, easy and hard. True love seeks not-self, but is a sacrificial love. Seek to know what your husband needs, and take care to fulfill them.
3.Love Your Children
We need to be ready to teach, train, and serve our children. Invest in your children daily. Our children help us become less selfish if we put aside our desires to serve them.
A woman without discretion is like a gold ring in a pigs snout (Proverbs 11:22). Being discreet is to be polite, honest in the sight of all men, prudent, and courteous. We need to be considerate of others.
Being chaste means to be pure in thoughts, acts, and deeds. Being chaste also means being modest, and not vulgar in speech and action.
6.Be a Keeper at home.
Women are called to guide their homes and manage the welfare of the family. We should look well to the ways of our household, and take care of the little things.
7.Be the Good Wife
There is no one truly good except God, and we should strive to be of a favorable character, agreeable, pleasant, honorable.
Being good also means we are kind to the ones around us.
8.Be Obedient to your own husband
Obey? Really? So hard to swallow, yet I should submissive to the will of my husband, willing to obey.
This might be the hardest one of them all, but we are called to be obedient to our own husband.
Not when he asks you to do something that goes contrary to God’s will, but when it goes against your own, we need to obey.
I’m in no way advocating that we become pushover ladies. However, after stating our views on the situation, we need to leave it in God’s hands, and follow what our husband decides.
Related: Words of Wisdom For Newlyweds
I have found that if I am able to give up my Self, my selfishness, and pride, it goes a long way in building a better relationship.
One thing is certain, you will never be able to change your husband. Many have tried, only to end up in divorce.
Only God can change your man. By being “in subjection to your own husband, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.” 1 Peter 3:1, 2.
We as women can only seek to make our part better, that the man in our life will be won. I always find it interesting that it says without the word.
It’s not up to us to teach them right from wrong, but be a picture of godliness to them.
A woman’s role is different than a man’s but no less important.
When a couple operates in the correct role that God made for them, everything runs more smoothly.
Please, be encouraged! Do your part well, pray, and watch God work a miracle in your life. A wonderful marriage is possible.
Become a godly wife by reading the bible, and asking God for his help in becoming who he created you to be.